Friday, November 23, 2018

Something I learned I learned...

You know, they say you realize how much you don't know when you become a parent. 

Me, well, I try to think of it more positively. 
I'm grateful for all I have learned since becoming a mom. 

Example:
 I had to wash dishes when my girls were napping. Our kitchen is right outside their bedroom door. 
I pick up the scrubber and there is a dreaded bug (probably came in on the wood we use to heat the house, but still).
Instead of screaming, I simply try to flick it down the drain. 
It disappeared. A minute later, I feel something on my ear.
I completely freaked out and did some sort of flailing, spin dance until I got it on the floor and squished. 
  • Silently  -

My girls and hubby (who was studying his Bible in the other room) had NO idea I had a total flip out at the kitchen sink. 


How does this relate to homeschool?
Glad you asked!!

Our children are watching us. 
 👁👁
They are learning from us. 

Is it ok to be freaked out? Yes. 
Did I need to wake up the entire neighborhood? No. 

It's something to think about. How am I teaching my children to deal with their emotions? 
Y'all, I have two girls. It gets emotional in our house. There are days I think we spend more time crying than anything else. 

And it's ok. That's what I tell my daughters. It's ok to feel angry, sad, frustrated, etc. We can't always control our feelings. 
We can, however, learn to control how we act when we feel certain ways. 

It's a valuable, Biblical lesson. Ephesians 4:26 says "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath."

Words mean a lot, so do actions. When they see us get angry and take a breath before reactions, or they see us picking ourselves up and moving on even when we are sad, they see us talk calmly to someone who hurt our feelings or made us mad... they see it is possible.

I know we can't always react perfectly, but I am thankful that God has grown me in many ways as a parent- one of which is I can have a freak out,  or even a meltdown, and unless someone can see me the world is oblivious.